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Give Me A Drink

By design, the human body has limitations, even if at its healthiest. For example, we can only bend our arms so far before snapping the bones into two. Or the fact that the muscles of the feet are designed to grow tired after long hours of walk/running or general activities. These aren’t necessarily negative limitations; they simply the body’s way of protecting itself from breaking down to beyond repair.

Similarly, there are times our spirit being may experience limitations. I know some Christians may disagree and think of themselves as super spirit-beings, supercharged to continuously walk the faith, fast and pray nonstop for days (and that’s noble if you can). However, I must confess that I experience spiritual fatigue and sometimes avoid contact with people. But that’s when the devil takes the most advantage to sow negative seeds.

I was particularly encouraged by the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman. For those unfamiliar with this encounter, please read John 4: 1 – 42 in the Bible. Jesus, being a Jew, was culturally duty-bound to NOT interact with the woman, a Samaritan. Yet, our Savior smashed traditions in favor of saving the lost. What’s fascinating about the story starts from verse six where it says:


“Jacob’s well was there; Jesus, tired from the long walk,

sat wearily beside the well about noontime."


To fully understand this feeling of exhaustion and physical depletion, imagine walking for six hours nonstop, no water and no snacks. Then you discover a well of water but you have nothing to fetch yourself a cup and quench your thirst. Did someone say, “patched!”

We’re not told how long Jesus sat at the well as He waited for His disciples who had gone into town for food. But let’s imagine that He had sat for at least five minutes, patiently waiting for someone to come along and alleviate his thirst.


Verse seven fascinates me even more and it reads like this: “As soon as the Samaritan woman came to the well, Jesus said to her, “Please give me a drink.”

Oh I can just imagine the look on that woman’s face—confusion? Shock? Sarcasm, anyone?


In the moment, Jesus didn’t just ask any ordinary person for water, He asked from a Samaritan! Let’s not forget that Jews don’t associate with Samaritans let alone ask for their help! Pause with me for a moment to analyze this interaction. Jesus was tired to the point of physical depletion; He needed sustenance to renew His strength before continuing on His journey back to Galilee. As we learned from verses, the Samaritan woman obviously wasn’t tired. The fact that she was going to draw water from a deep well after a walk from her house, indicates she was strong—at least, physically. But spiritually, something was missing in her life which, in that moment, Jesus had abundance of: Salvation. This dynamic is something I hadn’t noticed in my previous study of this Bible passage: the idea that though Jesus was physically tired, He was spiritually energized to save a lost soul. And though the woman was spiritually lost, she possessed the physical strength good enough to meet Jesus’ need for a drink of water.


A similar situation happened in the story of the Good Samaritan where a Jewish man, beaten, unable to physically care for himself and deserted by the side of the road was rescued by a Samaritan man. Can you imagine if the Jewish man had resisted the help simply because his helper was a Samaritan?

While there is no mention in the passage that this woman eventually gave Jesus the physical water He’d asked for, this complementary need for each other’s strength birthed salvation in the woman’s life and ultimately, many Samaritans met with and believed in Jesus!


It may sound odd to think that Jesus relied on the physical strength of a Samaritan woman or perhaps,
He’d only asked to engage in conversation without really needing the drink.

Personally, I think Jesus really needed the drink but got renewed by their conversation.


Whichever way, He demonstrates an important lesson here. As His followers, in our moments of exhaustions and depletions—physically or spiritually, are we seeking help from only those who look, pray, talk or walk like us? Now, I understand that when it comes to spiritual matters, it might be counter-productive to seek solution from someone who doesn’t share our faith but that’s no excuse to label them as “Samaritans” we’re not to associate with. It’s true that God brings diverse people in our lives, even those who don’t share our faith and beliefs, to help get through difficult times. It reminds me of the story Joseph and Pharaoh in the Bible (Genesis 41). Though they held different faiths, together, they saved thousands of lives from a severe seven-year famine and preserved generations thereafter.


Just as Jesus, even in his moment of physical tiredness, reached across the aisle to bridge the gap between God and this Samaritan woman, we too can become bridge builders at every opportunities we have, whether good or bad, physically or spiritually.


By Latunde Bolarinwa 24 Jun, 2021
Isn’t it interesting that when you conduct a google search for list of women who struggled with depression or mental illness in the Bible, the list usually consists of men and perhaps one or two women at most. Some might argue it’s because the Bible was mostly patriarchal; however, pages of Scripture are littered with stories of women…strong women who at one point in their lives endured the strains of a mental illness, whether short or long-lived. Mental Health is such a vital aspect of humanity. What makes us human isn’t merely our physical health and spiritual health. Without our mental health, we are incomplete. So it baffles me that we rarely speak about this aspect of our lives. What’s even more shocking is the stigma we (humans) place on those who struggle with an ill-health in the mental aspect of their humanity. Why is that? As I’ve always asked, if someone is diagnosed with cancer or diabetes, or high blood pressure or tooth cavity, or congestive heart failure, or found in spiritual ill-health such as lying, stealing, fornication, adultery, etc., do we automatically stigmatize those with these types of illnesses? Or do we empathize with and encourage them to seek appropriate treatment? I think most of us fall into the latter category. In the same token, those struggling with mental ill-health deserve such empathy rather than stigmatization. While the Bible describes many individuals dealing with all manners of mental illness, I want to share a few women and their plights: From the first few pages of the Bible, we read about the first family, their dysfunctions and shortcomings. Eve certainly must have endured Major Depression when her first son murdered her second son in cold blood. Then to watch that same first son being cursed and made a wanderer on earth (essentially becoming homeless, aimless and hopeless)! Many of us may not consider what Eve must have endured and though the Bible does not explicitly explain this either, we get a glimpse from the meaning of the name of another son she birthed: Seth means, “God has granted another son in place of Abel, whom Cain killed.” What a trauma! (Genesis chapter 4). We don’t know Noah’s wife’s name but we are familiar with the experience their family endured—worldwide, colossal wipeout! Imagine being the wife of a man that received the task to build a world class ark/ship/boat/yacht/submarine or whatever you want to call it! Once again, I can only imagine. (Genesis chapter 6, 7,8,9) Barrenness drove Sarai, Rachel and Hannah to pull extreme stunts. Sarai going as far as upgrading her servant’s status to co-wife and imagine what happened when the said servant became pregnant by her husband, the same man she’d been having sex with for decades without success! (Genesis 16). Similarly, Hannah watched her husband impregnant her co-wife over and again while she (the most loved) remained infertile. Bible records in 1 Samuel 1: 10 that “Hannah was in deep anguish, crying bitterly as she prayed to the Lord.” The impact of such trauma in Hannah’s life was evident by priest Eli’s accusation ( 1 Samuel 1: 14). How can I conclude this writeup without the mention of Mary, the mother of Jesus! The horror to watch your son suspended in the air by several inches of nails in his hands and feet! Yes, she knew He was the Savior, she knew He was special, unlike the rest of her children. Still, no mother is ever prepared for such event! Again, the Bible does not discuss her mental state during and after these dark moments in the history of the world but we can only imagine that Mary stayed in bed most of those three days after Jesus had died, crying until tears dried from her eyes. The emotional toll it must have taken even long after Jesus ascended to heaven. Ever ponder about that? Amazingly, the stories of these women did not end in sorry or depression or sadness. That’s the beauty; knowing that God loves us and sees whatever we are going through. That’s why Bible verses such as Romans 8:28 and Jeremiah 29:11 have a special hold on my heart. Each woman identified in this article laughed in the end: Eve gave birth to so more sons and daughters. Noah’s wife and her family survived the colossal wipeout and set their feet, once again, on dry earth! Sarai (later called Sarah) gave birth to her own child, a son for her husband! Rachel whom Jacob loved very much gave birth to two children as well! Hannah of course gave birth to Samuel, a son better than ten sons! Mary, the mother of our Lord Jesus also had other sons and forever known as The Mother of our Savior! Are you a woman reading this piece and wondering why you’re going through whatever it is you’re going through, let me encourage you with this: I am on this same ship with you. You might be in the deeper end of the struggle just as I once was, and I’ll be honest, it was really dark and scary. You feel alone, lost, anxious with no ability to pray. Remember how Hannah was described? In deep anguish, crying bitterly as she prayed onto the Lord; yet literally, no words proceeded from her lips. Here’s my step by step guide to come out of that deep end: If in a crisis, Text “NAMI” to 741741 Call/Text: (202) 304-8793 or Email: olatundebola2017@yahoo.com Schedule an appointment with your primary care doctor Request for PHQ9 assessment Request at least two weeks or few days wellness time-off from work Call National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Mental-Health-Conditions/Depression or 1-800- 950 - NAMI (6264) Find a Support Person or Group to confidentially speak about the situation. Pray: simply dialogue with God. The only formula for praying is the Lord’s Prayer and its as simple as talking to a friend. There’s no need for perfection during this dialogue. Shalom
By Latunde Bolarinwa 09 May, 2021
Motherhood isn’t just a role, it’s a destiny that starts the moment your heart, without warning, connects with another heart—usually a tiny beating heart that flutters in your stomach. For mothers who begin this destiny in-utero, your heart sings a different tune towards this unknown being slowing invading your internals. For most, it’s a happy tune, an indescribable happiness mixed with mild anxiety over the safety of this invader. Day after day, week and after week, you begin to realize that it’s your destiny to provide a safe haven for this foreigner until its arrival into this cruel world. For mothers who begin this destiny ex-utero, you’re equally preparing for a role unlike any other. Your heart sings differently than ever before, a mixture of happiness and anxiety over acceptance, connection and so much more. There’s a constant silent question in the back of every mother’s head: do I have what it takes to raise this individual? This isn’t a question of financial competencies, though that too is important. This question is at the very core, a question of fulfilling her destiny of Motherhood.
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